Monday, September 26, 2005

Flower child

Supermarket shopping with a toddler can be a big nightmare. The whole place is not only filled with toys and cookies and doughnuts but all that good stuff gets prominent billing and is at the right places for an impulse grab.

I have had my fair share of conversations with my Precious Boy about what we will and won't buy. But yesterday was different.

I stopped the cart by the organic produce to scan what veggies and fruits were available. Suddenly, he told me: "We need fwowers."
He carefully studied the floral racks. He pointed to the red roses.
"Dat one," he said. "The wed one."

How could I say no?

He felt very proud of his selection for the rest of the day.
He asked to help unload the groceries, and I gave him the bouquet, which he showed off to My Darling Redhead.
"We got fwowers. Wed woses. So pwetty. You smell dem, Daddy?"
And we discussed the bouquet at dinner time, as it was the centerpiece at our dining room table.

It's nice to know that beyond the snips and snails and puppy dog tails, and the climbing-lion-roaring-truck and train-obsessed veneer, that my Precious Boy may have a little romantic streak too.

Friday, September 23, 2005

My online life

I was having one of those moments when I thought seriously about
my age. I suppose this may happen more often as I approach middle
age.

Anyway, I was picking up my Wonderful Son from his preschool when he and
another boy were fascinated by a computer game. It clearly had
educational value. It tested reading ability and spelling knowledge.
And they were both very comfortable at the computer.

My son doesn't know life without a computer. From his infancy, he has watched his father and me being completely connected. And he will probably
never know life without a computer, or whatever is the future-day
equivalent of it.

I can still remember the first day I got to use a computer, at a
special lab at my grade school. We had to learn BASIC programming and
graphics were in its infancy.

Now I couldn't imagine life without a computer. How could I work? How
could I communicate with friends and family? I also have left a bit of
my opinion on the 'Net. I write reviews on Amazon. I rate recipes on
Epicurious. I rate movies on Netflix. You google me, and you can get an
odd sampling of the fruits of my career.

And of course, I have this blog.

I wonder, too, if this is my way of leaving my mark on the world. Ages
ago, the ancient monarchs built massive stone edifices as proof they
were once alive. It granted them immortality. Or is this a desire of
ours that we interpret in their monuments?

In this fleeting, ever-changing age, will this online identity of mine
have any permanence?

Sigh.

Ok. Thank you for indulging me for a minute. Now I'll try to get back
to reality.

Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Houston, you have a problem.

This hurricane season is just absolutely frightening, now as I watch as Rita turned overnight from a mild hurricane to a MONSTER.

And I worry for all the people in Galveston and Houston, especially my cousin and her family and some friends who had just relocated there after getting evacuated from New Orleans.

Let's pray that at least we, as a nation, learned something from Katrina and won't let Texas suffer the same catastrophe that Louisiana did and that we won't see the same kind of death toll.

And let's hope the weather calms down. Soon.

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Mission Impossible

Simple grooming is never simple with a 3-year-old.

The other day, after getting too many scratches on me during playtime, I decide to pull out the nail clippers.

There was once a time when nail clippers were one of those neat little gadgets that my baby thought fascinating. He couldn’t wait to try it out.

Nowadays, you’d think I was approaching with a butcher knife.

His eyes bulge out. Defensive arms swat me away. He kicks and screeches: “NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!”

We wrestle as I try to hold down his arms but his adrenalin is pumping hard and he busts out of my hold. He bolts to his room and slams the door.

Then there’s the problem of chapped lips.

His precious mouth may be on the verge of bleeding, but he revolts at the sight of the lip balm.

I try something different – Vitamin E oil. No sooner did I brush a little on his lips, did he wipe it off with his T-shirt.

My Darling Redhead suggests something flavored, something that’ll taste good. He buys an ice-cream flavored balm and I study the label, worrying momentarily about the potential for paraffin wax buildup in his stomach. But it didn’t matter anyway since this stuff would end up as a smear on his T-shirt, too.

His contorted face says to me: Mommy, why are you giving me that girlie stuff?

I try one last evasive maneuver, stealing into his bedroom when he’s fast asleep. He’s got the cutest little snore. Gently, quietly, I apply the lip balm. He doesn’t stir. I silently cheer my success and sneak away. Then he wakes up, wipes his mouth, mumbling, “don’t liiiiiiiii” before he collapses onto his pillow.

Curses. Foiled again.

Friday, September 16, 2005

Poem for my Precious Boy

I never thought I’d have to be a climbing post.
Or a trampoline.
Or a launching pad.
Or a landing pad.

I never knew I would have to be all those things in a 10-minute span.

I never thought I could learn to live on 5 hours sleep a night.

I never knew that even sleep deprived, I could wake up after hearing a faint whimper across the hallway.

I never thought I would need to memorize the recipe for whole wheat pancakes.

I never knew that I would have to make those pancakes three times a day.

I never thought I’d be a 24/7 milk machine.

I never knew I’d miss being a milk machine.

I never knew what it took to be a Mommy.

But then I never knew I would have as wonderful a child as you.

Friday, September 09, 2005

The power of wind and water

For my best news stories, I often have “leftovers” that don’t easily fit into the story that actually gets published. Sometimes the problem is space, or sometimes it’s just a tangent that doesn’t fit into the “thesis.”

My trip to Mississippi was exactly one of those stories.

I jumped at the chance to tour Hurricane Katrina’s ground zero, where her eye passed over. Working moms like me usually don’t get the out-of-state assignments, especially ones that’ll mean a few days on the road. But this trip on Sept. 8, courtesy of the Florida National Guard, only took a day and at least gave me my own glimpse of what this mighty storm had done.

In that 13 hour whirlwind trip, I saw a lot in Hancock County (and its towns of Bay St. Louis, Waveland and Pearlington) and was happy that I included most of the key stuff in my story. But there are so many other things that you won’t read in the paper.

** I met two Pearlington men, native sons and retired iron workers, returning for the first time to their destroyed homes. Wayne Bounds greeted me, calling me “Little lady.”


Then he saw his old union buddy, Nolan Pansano.
“How’r you? I ain’t got shit.”
“I ain’t got shit either.”
And that’s how they dealt with the tragedy of losing nearly everything they owned, everything they worked their entire lives for. It was just a new fact of life.



** The most astounding evidence of Katrina’s wake – the bayfront homes completely ripped from their foundations.








Their framing and concrete and furniture and appliances were pushed into big piles by the railroad tracks as if a bulldozer had pushed it there.

And their belongings were flung in every direction. (Got one odd anecdote from the local congressman, now homeless, whose son apparently likes to collect foreign machetes and found his mounted collection in a tree about a mile from where their house once was.)

This is what water and wind can do.

** There was mud everywhere indoors and it had a saltiness to its stank smell.

** The bayou country of Hancock County has some prime fishing, which would explain the dozens of boats I found scattered all over the place, even the one that somehow landed in a Burger King parking lot. (Sorry I don't have pictures of this. My frigging camera failed a few times that day.)

** The congressman also had a boat, which came in handy during the evacuation. As he headed inland to his brother’s farm, the Jourdan River was already rising well over its bank (18 feet). When the road became impassable, he unhooked the boat from the trailer and traveled that way. He knew where the roads were because the peak of the rooftops were still visible above the water line.

** One man who was at the airport (about 10 miles inland) when the storm struck and the place got flooded. He was walking on the runway when the eye passed, then he saw white caps coming up the tarmac. Within minutes the airport office had 2 feet of water.

** There were acres and acres of pine trees, brown and dying from the salt water exposure. Along the Gulf, there were beautiful, majestic oaks – the ones that you envision from “Gone with the Wind” with the Spanish moss hanging from its branches. Most of them withstood the winds and stayed firmly planted, but they were just as good as dead, too.

** Odd sights like the U-Haul truck, which had a corner perfectly balanced on a 4X4 fence post. Or the cars piled on top of one another at a dealership. Or the dozens and dozens of cars, trucks, boats and trailers carried in the wave and moved a mile away.

** Nearly all the local residents I met had banked on their experience (or their parents' experience) with Hurricane Camille and learned the hard way that there could be a worse storm. As they evacuated, they made decisions based on what happened in 1969 (as in 'We only had 2 feet of water from Camille, so if you put it on that top shelf, it’ll be OK'), then realized how badly they underestimated Katrina.

I was told that one man fared better than others – the man with a 2-story home in the once ritzy Diamondhead subdivision (million dollar homes with a private airport). He was an engineer who built his house to exceed the wind speeds and storm surge of Camille. His house was the only one left standing in his subdivision, but he still got 13 feet more flooding than his house design had anticipated.

** Dozens of cars were parked at the foot of the decimated Bay St. Louis bridge (The storm peeled its concrete and asphalt roadway off the concrete pilings.) Soon after the storm, people realized that it was one of the few places where you could get a cell phone signal. So now everyone goes there to make their phone calls.

** The incredible operation of the Florida National Guard. They come into the disaster zone, totally self-contained, able to manage their needs and their mission. And when you have a disaster wrecking all the infrastructure, you have to bring your own.
And they are STYLING with their setup.
At their “Camp Haywood,” in Bay St. Louis, I got to see their air conditioned tents, their shower tent, their internet tent (access via satellite), their mondo generator (capable of powering an entire city block), and their water purification system (reverse osmosis purifier, no less).

Here the “Red Horse” unit – a battalion of engineer wizards – is setting up washing machines for the camp.

I also got to eat the updated MRE - which proved to be a fascinating little science experiment. The heating pad for the meal is activated by saltwater. You put the sealed meal in a bag, pour in the salt water, close the bag, shake it and after some patient waiting, VOILA! – a heated bowl of chicken with noodles in gravy.
I also got to see a real latrine too, though the batallion had already upgraded to port-a-potties.
It was a massive, complex operation (the logistics of it are simply mind-boggling), but it is one of the few government operations where I walked out and thought – “This is an excellent way to spend my taxpayer dollars.”

The whole experience is indescribable really. There aren’t enough words to explain what this disaster. And the news photos and news video have been excellent, but it just doesn’t do it justice.

It was frightening, awe-inspiring, and very humbling. You can be sure I’m not going to be riding out too many hurricanes from now on.

Sunday, September 04, 2005

Tuva or Bust - The Sequel

The travel bug has infected me badly, but since international travel is probably a few years off, I am making plans for way in advance.

When I turn 50, I want to go to Tuva.

(I can almost hear all of you clicking onto Google to figure out where in the world that is. I’ll save the trouble for you. Click here.)

Tuva is a remote, autonomous region of Russia, on the western border to Mongolia. Its people are historically nomadic, with shamanism still evident in the 20th Century. It is also home to one of most unique singing styles I have ever heard – throat singing.

All of this actually started with the Florida International Festival, easily the most wonderful cultural experience that exists in my area. I always try to hear whatever obscure music or performance they offer. This year, it was Huun Huur Tu, the throat singers of Tuva.

A trained Tuvan can make a deep guttural sound and, through the magic of harmonics, are able to make a second sound with his single voice (apparently Tuvan women don’t do much throat singing.) You can learn more about it here.

Some of it sounds like an aboriginal didgeridoo accompanied by a flute, but it is very hard to describe – a sound that primordial.

It is some of the most fascinating music I have ever heard.

Of course, that sparked a new fascination and a search for all things Tuvan. I have just finished a hysterical little book called, Tuva or Bust , which chronicles how one of our nation’s most eminent physicists and his friends spend years trying to figure out a way to get to Tuva, in the era before Glasnost.

Luckily, for me, arranging the trip won’t require the kind of international connections described in the book.

Still, it will be (hopefully) be a lot less tainted by American culture. At least I hope it will be by the time I get there in 2022.

Thursday, September 01, 2005

Longevity

There is an old Chinese saying, "May you live in interesting times." Or was it a curse?

Well, I hope that I have an interesting life because apparently I will have a long one.

According to this, I will live a minimum of 82 years, but could survive to 100 if I play my cards right. The moral of this story is that clean living, and good genes, will help you stick around longer.

Of course, none of this accounts for accidents or random events which render such longevity calendars useless.

I wonder if you could add risk to natural disasters, crime rate, or motor vehicle accident rate and what the new calculations would be.

Seems like you'd do just as well rolling the dice or doing a Tarot reading.